Have your parent done wrong to you?
There’s a lot of brokenness in this world of ours. The reason for that is because we all sin and are not without sin. Sometimes the brokenness or sin is in our own household. Sometimes it is our parents or us as parents, who has done something sinful or wrong towards our children. Sometimes parents make mistakes because they are human and also fall short of the glory of God. Parents are human and can make mistakes when they parent a child.
Today I want to talk to the parents and children. First to the parents. If you know that you have done wrong towards your children, in some choices that you made regarding their up bring, then you go and ask their forgiveness. I will never forget how a pastor taught me that he too had to ask his children forgiveness for some faults he made as a parent. After I heard this, I asked forgiveness from my children as well for poor choices I made regarding them in the past. It was the hardest thing to do because I had to take my pride and shuff it down. It’s not easy to ask forgiveness I know but God’s word asks it from us:
Mat 5:23 “So if you are offering your gift at the altar and remember there that another believer has something against you,
Mat 5:24 leave your gift at the altar. First go away and make peace with that person. Then come back and offer your gift.
Many parents don’t want to ask forgiveness or admit that they have made a mistake towards their children. Reason for this is because they think that this will diminish their authority as a parent. The thing is, our authority as parents come from the Lord and not from our performance, as K.Smith says from SATS. We gain authority in our workplace because of how we performed in lower position and then get promoted to a point where we are in authority positions. But as parent, this isn’t true. We receive the authority as parents from God over our children.
Now I get to the children. There are some times where our parents have done such a big thing against us, maybe abuse or maybe something worse, that forgiveness isn’t easy. I want to ask you that if your parent who have done something sinful against you and you struggle with forgiving then, along with taking it to the Lord, see a counselor. He or she will be able to help you work through this and along with Jesus Christ, will be able to bring you to a point where you are able to forgive.
A pastor once told me that holding on to that bad thing that person did to you in the past, only makes you unhappy. That person might have forgot about it years ago or if they have come to you to ask forgiveness, then it’s because what they have done to you are bothering them. But holding onto that unjustice that was done to you, makes you unhappy and binds you to depression, wrath, unforgiveness and unable to have relationships with others and with God. Get a counselor and work through that unjustice that your parent might have done towards you. It’s freeing.
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