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When a loved one, dies

Ecclesiastes 3:1-2  For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted; 

And so it continues unto verse 8 of this chapter.

Eph 5:15-16  Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. 

With regards to Ephesians, this chapter 5 heading is to walk in love.

When a loved one dies, there are many questions and statements that arise in our thoughts. Things from:

“Was the person comfortable, without pain of suffering, when they gave their last breathe?”

“Why did God take her or him away, they were so young?”

“Am I sure of my salvation?”

“If only I spent more time with him or her.”

The death of anyone, make us stand still and think about our own life. Are we spending enough time with our loved ones? Am I doing enough to be the salt for others who live in this world? Are our priorities in the right place?

There’s so many memories that flood our minds of the one who has died. Times where you spent endless hours with them with many laughs. Watching television shows with them like Tom & Jerry cartoons. Driving them to work. Having Christmas lunches with them. The memories are endless and the sadness big.

It doesn’t help to wonder whether you could have spent more time with the person who died because they aren’t there anymore but there is something that you can do. You can spent more time with those that are still present. We can prioritise our lives differently and live life more happy by implementing things and people into our lives that are important to us. The thing is, love is the most important thing. God is love and one of His biggest commands is to love Him with your whole heart, soul and mind and others like yourself. Love is very important to God and losing a loved one, you will be able to see why.

When we love others, they are important to us and when they are important to us, we forgive them. We spent time with them. We share our lives with them and when we do this, we don’t have regrets when they die.

We don’t know when our time comes for Jesus Christ to come for us. Besides being ready for Him by allowing Him to be your Lord and Saviour, time is limited here on earth. We need to live life so that the people who are left behind when we die, do not have regrets either. We only have now. Hug that husband or wife of yours. Tell your children that you love them and spent that 30 minutes each week night with them. Take your elderly mother’s hand in yours, look her in the eyes and tell her how much she means to you. Forgive that person who have brought sorrow over you. Make amense with those you need to. Take that 30 minutes each day and do what you love because when you die, everything that was here on earth, will not be anymore.

God bless you dear listener.

Marleen