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Let your “yes” be “yes”

James 5:12  But above all, my brothers, do not swear, either by heaven or by earth or by any other oath, but let your “yes” be yes and your “no” be no, so that you may not fall under condemnation. 

Our pastor preached that when you make a commitment, that you think it through. He said that before you make the commitment, you plan it thoroughly because the Bible says:

Luk 14:28  For which of you, desiring to build a tower, does not first sit down and count the cost, whether he has enough to complete it? 

Our pastor further added that relationships take effort, time and sacrifice.

How does all of this fall into one piece? After hearing what our pastor said, this played through my mind for days. What does it mean, that your “yes” should be “yes” and your “no” should be “no”? Friendships and relationships of any kind take a yes or a no.

When you agree, maybe not verbally, but with deeds, to be someone’s friend, then that is a yes.

The “I DO” on your wedding day, is yes.

Joining a bible study with someone after being invited, is a yes.

When you commit, that is yes and your yes should stay yes.

A yes, means effort, time and sacrifice. There are times when you don’t feel like it. Times where life throws your curveballs or get busy but your yes should stay yes, no matter what. Take stock before you say yes. Sit down, count the cost before you say yes to someone or to something. Because after you have committed, your yes should stay yes. The same goes for no. If you have said no, you stick with no.

Let us take stock of our lives.

Are we still on course?

Are our “yes” still “yes and our “no” still stay “no”? This might be a good lesson for your children.

“No means no my child.” Can I hear an “amen,” parents? 🙂